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As for everything else that you want to complete in life, there’s gonna be some motivation involved – not necessary much but it got to be there. Motivation can be taught, scientist claims – but by what factor – motivation?? Yes! but not alone, there are other significant elements that develop motivation. You should see motivation as a part of you, grounded deep in within you, but affectet and effected by you psycological state of mind, what cognitive level your at, social background and how you behavior has evolved.

So why motivation?

Well first off – if you as a person, maybe with a mental disorder, and want to make some improvement about a subject, which has reached a standstill. So far everything has been easy and motivation hasn’t been a key factor for success, because the evolution of the subject has been organic (no effort in reality to get to the standstill). Now to move a head, you got to keep a maintaining focus on all that is basic.  This is not hard on the motivation let alone, but your main focus is now the small details – only the details can keep you moving forward towards what ever goal you might have!

Lets use a case – The second best rowing team in the world cant keep up with the best as it is right now. Up until now they have become the second best team by only organic evolution and basic training. But to beat the best team, they have to start focus on not only streching and contracting their arm muscles during training – but also have focus on the grib, the twist in the wrist and a enhanced team plan for communication – all these plus more should the main focus every single minutes this team is out on the water practising. Here the motivation kicks in!

So natural talent can get you far, but if you want to reach full potential, you gotta have motivation!…

Life changing decisions require motivation, without it, forget all about it!..and this is especially the reality for people with mental disorders – why? well a so big change in habits and doings takes time, and a constant focus on not falling back to old procedures is exhausting. But motivation in the right form will help to minimize both physical and psycological pain in this process and give a feeling of success and pleasure when goals are reached.

So motivation is important, yet motivation is very individual and there is no rigth or overall helpfull solution to how you boost the will(motivation) for change. It is however possible to find alot of guides and how to on the web. Joining seminars and seek coaching is a way of learning aswell, but often cost money, therefore be sceptical and use networking to find the best courses and classes….

This is only the first part on motivation….more will come.

Remember, im not teaching about motivation – im merely motivating!

Have a good one🙂

Blogging vs. dyslexia

So can a dyslectic have a blog? – well yes! But does anyone understand what the dyslectic is publishing? – probably not!

Well that is, in its nature not true – studies shows that like any other mental disorder or dysfynction some dyslectic people due to their personality finds ways and strategy’s to overcome the lack of basic phonological abilities – now for what im understanding, its all about the non-existing ability of decoding the sounds of letters in the different language – I might be wrong –  but lets call it: “the dyslectic version of the truth”!

I guess a wonder-linguist would correct me in the matter – but please dont, make your own blog instead, mostly because we dyslectic people dont understand 75% of the words you say/write/try to explain… so it would also be a waste of you own time. Im just kidding – give it a try and I’ll prove that im right about the 75% !!

So blogging can be done by a dyslictic then, yes!! But you have to be keen on it, stubborn and have some spare time, because “we” make alot of typo’s and the grammatic errors, verbs are wrong ect. ect. But it can be done in a way, so it is understandable and maybe decoded in right manner.

Fortunately im stubborn and keen on it. If people ask me what it feels like, to be dyslectic? I simply answer I dont know! It is all I have ever known! In that contrast I often say, I guess it is like – you – running a 100 meters sprint against me on you knees – not exatly a win – win situation for you!  (it will take you a long time and your knees will probably hurt/bleed/have no skin!)

To be a little serious here at the ending of this post – dyslectic people have problem hearing the sounds of the letters and therefore foreing languages are often difficult to absorb and the development of strategy’s for learning the structure of the language are often very time consuming and a frustating process.

Good night/day both dyslectic and non-dyslectic

This summer I was tested for dyslexia, which turned out to be real…. kinda shocker… to be honest, yet it also clearified alot of questionmarks raised throughout my life… more will come in this section – be sure of it!

 

….Odd – I guess it refers to “out of the ordinary” – but I really dont know… Odd, right?

People with different kind of fear, anxiety and every day life damaging thougths are often being seen as – Odd- becuase they tend to do some elusive maneuver to reduce the impact of a sudden intrusive thought. But how do “they”/”we”/I experience this -out of the ordinary stuff – reaction? Ofcourse there is not a right answer to this, but… Maybe it will make sense to you when you are done reading this – but just maybe, there is a risk of you thinking that everything just got more -Odd- and for that I apologize – deeply!

So im standing in line, at the university cantine, waiting to get some dinner. They server codfish with mustard sauce – a must have, I know it is odd but you gotta eat fish twice a week, period!

You pay per 100 g you fill on to your plate – so now you know that the plate is stabled out in the open for every single one to grab one and fill them up with the quantity they think that they can consume. There are 4 stacks of plate and as the line progress forward I can see that people in front of me are grabbing plates from all 4 stacks – now the intrusive thoughts are starting to build out inside the head. People’s upperside of their hand are touching the plate beneath, and one start to wonder – where has those nails been doing for the past teen minutes – maybe been biting nails, deep inside and cleaning a ear or maybe some serious gold digging up the nose?

Did you loose your appetite? Understandable – but dont worry I can help – just grab a plate and put it onto another stack, grab another from the first stack where you picked the first plate from, and say out load: “this one is dirty”  and place it on the counter.  Now pick the third Plate and start getting your codfish – of course people have been using their fingers on the spatula and spoons…. damn!

The written example above is a version where the persone  are in somewhat control – or very hungry for codfish. For a person out of control, dinner from the cantine would not even be a option…

Some People with disorders are so much in control that is dosn’t affect them to do what is ordinary, but they still got the thoughts.

This is Odd Ordinary Things, what seems like ordinary thing to some, can be a mindstruggling task for others…

So people are not doing odd stuff to piss you off. They are having a Waterloo of thier own, against their brain, and it is not a easy win!

Next time we’ll have a look on the shopping basket and driving in public transportation… might be Odd! ? !

Im just asking…

Obsessiv compulsive disorder!… Yes a insanely complex disorder yet somewhat simple. I got a good friend of mine, she is a psychologist, not a therapist of OCD  – just a very good friend, she asked me this: For people with OCD, wouldn’t it be better if it was said CDO for the systematic reason within you brain and reactions towards the diagnosis you got?

Personally i am not freaked out about how the order of the letters are – but lets think about how this would help us not to be misunderstood. For instance im very open about my OCD, often 10-15 minuttes after people meet me the first time i’ve told them about me having my dayli problem. But when you say: I got OCD ( remember im Danish) people often looks very suspicious at me like they heard wrong or missed a word. Im just babbling along and suddenly I tell about the fear of germs and it like they finally understood what it is all about. Reason for this – OECD ( the organisation for econimic co-operation and development) – many people initial thoughts was: What did he get from OECD? some statistics, reports or some lawstuff, why is he babbling about germs?

If there is a crowd, it takes one person to like ask, what do mean – germs? OECD? I go – OH no! no! no! – Im like washing my hands insanely and checking my apartment like 10 times before I leave it – every time!

So CDO would probably help with my minor problem about OCD being spelled OCD. But CDO doesn’t do anything else for my fear of germs and my apartment will probably burn down anyway if i dont do my standarized checking procedure. So from my point of view CDO would not safe my world – but on the other hand – CDO sounds like at organisation that is prepared to take over the world at any time. I got CDO – I do my part. Maybe with a twist – I got CDO with OCD !! Now thats kinda freaky!😀

If you got OCD or relatives who suffer from OCD or just curious about OCD please feel free to post